She Ratchet

Kings, Queens, Deevas (Divas) and Dimes...
Oh my...
I'll never understand how it came to be that so many people have such overinflated opinions of themselves.
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But How Does One Know Whom To Help?

I'm Easily Bored

And I'm not motivated by money.
The club is doing great (so far) so work is not a major concern.
This combination allows me to try to help others whenever possible.
Issac seems confused at it wanders the Gulf Coast in an effort to figure out which area to eff-up next.
This is a great cause for concern for the elderly ladies I check on. After a couple of days of making hurricane kits, these women are set - unless we are forced to evacuate.

 Most of my free time these days seems to be working with kids who happened to be born to sorry-assed parents.
I listen to single mothers complain that the guys they hooked-up with turned out to be deadbeat-dads.
I listen to women complain that no one helps them while others seem to get all the benefits available from the government.
I listen to story after story about how these women are victims of society (and not their own personal choices).

But all that aside, I still focus on the kids.
It just amazes that so many parents imagine that it is the teacher's responsibility to ensure that a child gets an education.

A teacher may have a student for one hour a day.
A teacher has 30 children for each of six or seven classes throughout the day.
A teacher has over 150 children to teach on any given day.

A parent has one, two or three children.
A parent has these children for most of the night.
It is a parent's job to ensure that a child learns the information given by the teacher.

One of the kids I tutor (at no charge) happens to have a mother who is in my club more than I am.
The woman makes a good living for a single mother with one child (She nets about $65k a year) yet she complains that she is always broke.
Upon entering their home I knew why.
The woman seems to be trying to compensate for her lack of maternal skills by buying her son whatever he wants.
This may be fine but the woman rents an apartment, drives the company car and purchases her home furnishings and appliances from rent-to-own stores.
The woman borrows one pay day loan to pay off the prior month's pay day loans. The woman has no net worth.

This woman's financial woes seem to be the result of her need to feel equal to those around her.
This woman is making a good living without any education beyond that of high school.
I'm assuming that she validates herself through her ability to freely spend (borrowed) money.
To tell the truth, I've never seen anyone so broke who has such a large collection of shoes, belts and purses.
The woman would always boast about her possessions until one day I explained to her that she owned nothing but debt - and that that debt was actually owned by some bank.
I explained that if she would miss a few drunken nights at the club and instead spend those nights helping her son with his homework and talking to him that she wouldn't feel so guilty that she would feel the need to try to buy his affection.
I explained that if she was a better mother that she may actually feel good enough about herself so that she wouldn't have to have the parade of men leaving her bedroom most mornings in her efforts to find 'a good man'.

I know it sounds as though I've been bashing women in most of my recent posts - but I'm not.
Who I am bashing are the sorry-assed ho's who think that shows like 'Love and Hip Hop" offer the best example of Black womanhood in America today.
Who I am bashing are the women who raise their son's to be their 'man' instead of raising their sons to be a man.
I know I am rambling but I'm just sick of always trying to help people who don't want any help.
I'm just tired of helping people who don't really want to do better for themselves - they just want everything done for them.....

EBT

While reading the comments for one of SeeNew's posts - I became curious about who it is that actually receive public assistance...

Facebook Ratio

If someone has more picture of them self at the club on their facebook page than they do of their kids - they may not be as good a parent as they claim to be.

If; Club Photos > Kid Photos = Bad Parent

I Never Understood...

 The appeal of reality(?) shows.

 Why watch and aspire to live someone else's (over-produced and edited) life instead of living ones own life?

Why would people find pleasure in drama and mess?
I guess those who watch these shows can always say, "I may not have that car, house, body or looks. I may not be on television nor have the (relative) fame these women have. But at least I'm not as bad-off as those bitches.".

And...

Are You really a Single Mother or were you always just a Baby-Momma?

I'm sick of women who brag that they are Single Mothers when it is often the woman's own fault.

What does the woman want?
A medal for having made bad choices?

Talented or Skilled ?

Which one is "Skilled" and which one is merely "Talented"?

Some People...

 Don't know what money looks like.
A woman at the club was boasting to me that she lived in one of the larger and newer homes in my neighborhood.
The woman pointed out that she had just built her home and that she had included all of the latest amenities.
She boasted of her new Benz and that she only shopped at Dillard's.
She boasted that her sons only wore Polo brand clothing.
She boasted that her husband had just been accepted into one of the many wanna'-be-elite clubs in our town.
The woman just seemed to be impressed with herself.

I just smiled and congratulated on her recent progress up the social ladder as she kept boasting of her planned vacations, her new time share, and that she was going to enroll her sons in private school.

The thing is, the woman didn't know that I lived on one of the older more established blocks in her neighborhood.
But this was announced by another neighbor (the wife of a prominent doctor in town) who broke things down to her.
"You built your house to be near us - we never built our homes with the hopes of you moving in.", she said in a condescending manner.
"John has generational wealth and liquidity - you have debt in the hopes of being able to afford your bills each month.", she continued.
"John doesn't even shop at Dillard's nor wear Polo - they lack 'snob-appeal'. Have you even been to Saks, Barney's or Neiman-Marcus?", she would say.
"You built a house on a lot - we built our homes and some land.", the doctor's wife would continue.

The doctor's wife then walked away leaving the first-generation-middle-class woman dumbfounded.
"It's okay.", I said to the woman, "When everyone has money - it's incidental. There is no need to boast - it just comes across as being one from the lower classes.".

"It Like That..."

 It just amazes me that so many people are looking to others for their personal salvation.
Many believe that no matter what one does - the end result(s) will always be the same.

 I was listening to a group of men during Happy Hour at my bar explaining that I should be a huge fan of men like Al Sharpton.
That Al was smart and that his opinions have, more often than not, proven to be correct.
The thing about guys like Al is that they really have no problem with the established system - most just resent that they have no means by which to exert power within said system.
Guys like Al assume the role of the polemic when in reality they can easily be bought off and silenced with a radio/television contract.
Guys like Al are really just after the money - they have no real concern for social justice (unless it, in some way, benefits themselves.).

 Would Al die for his many spurious causes?
Would Al give up everything just because it was the right thing to do?

 Would Al ever spend his newly acquired Social Capital on a cause bigger than himself?

 Sure, Al has lost some weight - but would he allow himself to suffer the long process of starvation just to affect change?

This post isn't really about Al.
I just don't place much hope in any man who promises change of the Establishment when his whole life has been focused on becoming part of that establishment.

Get Used To Hearing It

Especially the beginning - played after each touchdown....

Or the drum section from Fleetwood Mac's 'Tusk'.

Skill v. Talent

Which group would thought of as being 'skilled' while the other would be described as being merely 'talented'?

Going For the Gold

What's the big deal about the Olympic medal count?

Does the number of medals won reflect a nation's place in the global political/economic hierarchy?

Instant Champions?

As Dwight Howard becomes the latest in a long line of dominant big men playing for the Lakers - can we expect this to be the beginning of another Lakers dynasty?

Is 2012 The Beggining of The End?

White Boys CAN Jump

Hip Hop Influenced Reaction

Pop Culture (They're NOT From Compton)

Well... She IS from Compton...

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