It seems that many college educated women are at a crossroad concerning marriage - and whether that marriage should be to a Black man or to another.While the pace of education for Black women seems to be eclipsing that of Black men - what has that education gotten you?
Are you afraid of Black men?
Are you superior to Black men?
Do you even know any Black men (beyond your own family)?
Has your experience with the Black men in your family soured your perception of all Black men?
They are lost and don't know what to do. They know their father wasn't like that (or maybe they hope not) but won't deal with the same ish their mother dealt with.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is often looked at like it was perfect but anyone who knows knows a lot of problems were kept from childrens eyes. Someone just has to tell the truth and then they can decide for theirselves. Most women settle for the best that they have at that time. Few if any actually get what they want, but no one says that.
Marriage has always been a value pick over getting what you want.
"Marriage has always been a value pick over getting what you want."
ReplyDeleteThat's the point of the last group of posts.
Am I missing something? I repect you having an opinion but is it valid or am I missing something?
ReplyDeleteWhat does a college education have to do with a black woman being single?
I a college education single black woman and I am not afraid of black men. IN fact I love black men. I do not feel superior to them nor do I have sour perception of black men. In fact my father was a wonderful black man. He had his flaws but he was a wonderful man and provider. I do expect my future husband to be that and do not feel that I should settle for less. I am not sure what you are getting at or maybe my education is blurring my vision.
@ Freckles - Post Grad. I should have been more clear.
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I was just reading the posts by some Black female bloggers and noticed a trend in their thinking - that many speak poorly of Black men.
BW and BM should marry who they want regardless of race. There are more and more BW marrying out, just as BM have been doing for decades. Educated BW don't have to worry about being bitter - just get out there and marry a good decent man. He doesn't have to be Black. Ditto for BM.
ReplyDeletewell that is too bad and is rather sad. I would love to be married but I just havent come across the right man yet and to be honest he will possibly be a black man.
ReplyDeleteI agree with you John, they do speak poorly of black men. Most Educated BW are missing something.
ReplyDeleteI don't know what it is, SOMETHING JUST DOES NOT SEEM RIGHT.
a college educated black woman is not missing anything any other black person is missing in America. I think that both black me and women have a similar sense of loss that interferes in our relationships. A BW with an education is not a special case with a particular problem because she is educated!!! no offense anonymous but YOU sound bitter.
ReplyDeleteNajla, I am with you. I do not think that college educated black women are missing anything. I think as a whole black people are too comfortable with settling when dating. We do not make investments in one another. We do not take the time to be serious and stray away from games. I think that we should all have standards for one another. I know plenty of college educated couples that are married and happy which didnt had nothing to do with the education factor. There are number of black men and women who carry the baggage of their past which hinder their futures. Think about that.
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