Really?
How would we know anymore?
Is you hair really your hair?
What about you lets us know that you are a real/strong Black woman?
Friday, September 24, 2010
STFU!
Really?
How would we know anymore?
Is you hair really your hair?
What about you lets us know that you are a real/strong Black woman?
I hear you but there are wonderful black women out there that have their own hair, eyes, skin color and dont dress like a $2 ho. AND there are black men that do not know how to deal with a strong black woman as well. Not all but some.
ReplyDeleteI try not to speak in generalities like that but as a society we have lost our way of dealing with each other. We have lost our roles as black men and women. Some have lost their love for self. It is all kind of sad and I pray that the good of both (black men and women) will find their way back to each other.
No fair, Black J those aren't examples of strong Black women. Ghetto-looking mamas and cheap weaves don't define a strong Black woman.
ReplyDeleteI consider myself one and I have been told I am one and some brothas say I'm too much for them. I'm not a ghetto mama nor do I wear off-colour weaves, I have taste. Some guys say I'm too smart and too complicated, but part of that is because these guys aren't on the same level.
Maybe in your pics you should compare like for like a ghetto mama with her male equivalent, a Michelle Obama type with her male equivalent - if the question is posed in that context the answer will be very different.
This is my first time to your blog, found it one dessertflowers blog. And I'm shocked, tickled, and honestly don't quite know what to think.
ReplyDeleteYou'd think I'd be offended because I'm black, and a woman, but honestly, I'm not. Clearly those women in those pics, could use a little help. And if they are without a significant other, and want one, their looks may be what is the problem at hand. I hear you. But, come on, most of us don't look that way, and you know it!
What makes a woman strong, is that she is who she is, and isn't afraid to be herself. She doesn't apologize for her likes or dislikes, and probably really wouldn't care what you think. Sorry.
A real woman could wear weave, colored lenses, and it wouldn't matter if she's living in her truth. It's not a denial of who she is for her to say, I like Ronald McDonald hair, or light eyes, or even my breasts. It's a denial when she chooses those things above self respect, and love for herself.
I've been typing so long, I almost forgot what we were talking about.
Anyway, I'm a strong woman because I live in truth. I love, and I care. That should be enough.
Hi John,
ReplyDeleteI think if we're being fair, many Black men are tired of dealing with women who aren't particularly feminine. Sure, most Black women are emphatically female-looking (even the ghetto/hoodrat types)but whatever the class of sister, it's not common they'd be feminine.
Maybe something to do with female-dominated homes...even when a man is present.
Menelik Charles
London Englandd
Damn UBJ you decided to straight rape em with this one.
ReplyDeleteWhat's funny is in the world today the undisciplined person is seen as strong. So majority of women who may say that usually are saying you can't handle my bad habits and undisciplined life so you must not want a real woman.
I really don't think this is the majority of Black women but that small minority of hoodrats speak very loudly. Also, television provides them an outlet to be a ass. So life imitates art and more and more women are copying off of the the Real Hoodrats of Atlanta, New Jersey, New York and DC.
What make people strong is discipline period. What the weak think is strong is tied into something they've seen on TV like expressing theirselves or being true or speaking up. All of these things are stupid because a strong person doesn't have to convince the weak and a weak world they are strong.
"You'd think I'd be offended because I'm black, and a woman, but honestly, I'm not. Clearly those women in those pics, could use a little help. And if they are without a significant other, and want one, their looks may be what is the problem at hand. I hear you. But, come on, most of us don't look that way, and you know it!" - Nicki Woo
ReplyDeleteNicki pretty much said what I was thinking.
"I really don't think this is the majority of Black women but that small minority of hoodrats speak very loudly. Also, television provides them an outlet to be a ass. So life imitates art and more and more women are copying off of the the Real Hoodrats of Atlanta, New Jersey, New York and DC." - D. Freeman
And I agree with D.Freeman too.
Anyway this post makes you seem like a bitter guy who hates Black woman. I would expect a post like this from some racist White person on one of those White Supremacist blogs. You seemed to have drunk the 'stereotype kool-aid' as far as Black women are concerned and that's sad.
I agree with Nicki Woo as well, I'm just tired of seeing certain stereotypes about Black women paraded about and I s'pose I was looking at it from a personal angle which was a bit elitist. But yea co-sign Nicki.
ReplyDeleteLOL @ Val on the Kool Aid. I think Black J's trynna get at sumthin but maybe it came out wrong, that's all.
...peace
@ All - See post above.
ReplyDeleteYou're SUPPOSED to be mad at this post.
@UBJ
ReplyDeleteThem ain't even $2 ho's, man them ain't even $1 ho's, that is just all kinds of wrong.
*lol*
I've never been impressed by "Kool Aid" hair. My eyes are hazel and yet when I see people with hazel contacts, they don't look natural to me.
ReplyDeleteI don't see anything wrong with being the best "you" that you can be.
me being black i should know that this has gotten so worst over the years to the point were people expect me to be loud and mean but im not that kind of person im nice to almost every one and i treat people how i want to be treated because thats how i was raised so in the end i agree with D.Freeman too. because there isnt much i can say to change peoples minds about stereotyping all black women even though every one is diffrent in there own way.
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