tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560439070709193509.post7731059834687464649..comments2024-01-27T18:42:47.782-06:00Comments on uglyblackjohn: Don't Call Me "Boy"uglyblackjohnhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14404995571276457138noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560439070709193509.post-78778017510816977332009-06-24T01:20:58.320-05:002009-06-24T01:20:58.320-05:00Context and intent means everything!Context and intent means everything!DPizzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12067541161152919521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560439070709193509.post-91623356988256868382009-06-20T22:04:59.002-05:002009-06-20T22:04:59.002-05:00I knew this old white cat who used the words boy a...I knew this old white cat who used the words boy and gal a lot. As in, I sent that boy at that shovel five minutes ago and he still not back. Or Is that gal finish with dinner yet. When I first met him, I didn't know how to take him. He certainly appeared to be a racist--old white man who had lived exclusively in the South. But as I got to know him, I realized that that was just his way. He called everyone younger than he was boy or gal whether they were black or white. There was no intent to demean.<br /><br />Again, it is perhaps in the intent.Max Reddickhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09360630810931410487noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560439070709193509.post-57520144451990256712009-06-19T21:27:37.309-05:002009-06-19T21:27:37.309-05:00@ RunningMom - From one's mother - there are n...@ RunningMom - From one's mother - there are no rules.<br /><br />@ FreeMan - I know.<br /><br />@ "...just as important as the intent of his word..."<br />I'm stealing that.uglyblackjohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14404995571276457138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560439070709193509.post-49772383291818605752009-06-18T23:33:18.815-05:002009-06-18T23:33:18.815-05:00I think that the person saying "boy" is ...I think that the person saying "boy" is just as important as the intent of the word. If man (white of course) could tell a younger man (black of course) boy with the intent of "Listen", but more often than not the young man will take it as a sign of disrespect and give a response like, "Boy?".Mr. Nofacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07164229381294354588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560439070709193509.post-17678668099993511582009-06-18T23:17:46.057-05:002009-06-18T23:17:46.057-05:00@UBJ - The friend and his father are white!@UBJ - The friend and his father are white!FreeManhttp://freemanpress.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560439070709193509.post-14037718798192724322009-06-18T22:43:18.718-05:002009-06-18T22:43:18.718-05:00I might say: I need a cute boy to _________ or... ...I might say: I need a cute boy to _________ or... he's a dumb boy..... or.. he's my boy-friend. If I ever say BOY! it's only to my son when he's likely doing something he shouldn't...as in BOY! you better cut that out! <br /><br />It could be used a few ways, some good/ok some derogatory. The meaning changes with the context of the person doing the talking, the inflection, the tone, etc. <br /><br />LOL at: "@ FreeMan - Wait... Your friend was white, or just his father?"RunningMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04611815972608970042noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560439070709193509.post-55057062587329798842009-06-18T18:06:14.028-05:002009-06-18T18:06:14.028-05:00@ FreeMan - Wait...
Your friend was white,
or just...@ FreeMan - Wait...<br />Your friend was white,<br />or just his father?<br /><br />@ Rippa - Yea... I read that.<br />But the thing to realize is that while they may be calling you "Sir", they may be calling someone else "Man".<br />"Sir" is to be prefered. It means that you're the one in charge and not their friend (but still able to be friendly).<br /><br />@ brohammas - Coaches can (sometimes) get away with calling a kid "Boy" or "Son".<br />Even a well respected white coach can (sometimes) get away with calling a Black kid "Son" or Boy" in the context of a game or practice session.<br /><br />The funny thing is that many kids will call their former coaches "Coach" even decades after their playing days.uglyblackjohnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14404995571276457138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560439070709193509.post-91072745129418268512009-06-18T12:41:28.544-05:002009-06-18T12:41:28.544-05:00No matter how I mean it, it wouldn't sound rig...No matter how I mean it, it wouldn't sound right coming from me. I'm fine with that.<br />In some parallel world, "boy" or "son" just reminds me of football coaches.brohammashttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14916793129032434035noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560439070709193509.post-48859447913970570262009-06-18T08:10:04.587-05:002009-06-18T08:10:04.587-05:00Good post, I liked the idea of volunteering and pa...Good post, I liked the idea of volunteering and passing on jewels to the youth as you did. Yes, it's all about the intent. I feel you though on the politeness of the kid you were with. That's something that throws me off about kids here in the south. I wrote about it before alluding to how that is very misleading.RiPPahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08876723972974044402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2560439070709193509.post-6624617295041274332009-06-18T02:57:07.659-05:002009-06-18T02:57:07.659-05:00Well I was once called colored when talking to one...Well I was once called colored when talking to one of my friends father who was white. He was just a old school cat teaching us how to bet the odds on craps in Vegas. <br /><br />I agree depending on who and what context a lot of words are in I can give a pass. Now the "N" word I try to make sure no one calls me that even my own folk. I just don't like the word at all.<br /><br />It's funny how most youngins respect those who are doing instead of the ones who are telling.FreeManhttp://freemanpress.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.com