Thursday, August 30, 2012
The club is doing great (so far) so work is not a major concern.
This combination allows me to try to help others whenever possible.
Issac seems confused at it wanders the Gulf Coast in an effort to figure out which area to eff-up next.
This is a great cause for concern for the elderly ladies I check on. After a couple of days of making hurricane kits, these women are set - unless we are forced to evacuate.
I listen to single mothers complain that the guys they hooked-up with turned out to be deadbeat-dads.
I listen to women complain that no one helps them while others seem to get all the benefits available from the government.
I listen to story after story about how these women are victims of society (and not their own personal choices).
But all that aside, I still focus on the kids.
It just amazes that so many parents imagine that it is the teacher's responsibility to ensure that a child gets an education.
A teacher may have a student for one hour a day.
A teacher has 30 children for each of six or seven classes throughout the day.
A teacher has over 150 children to teach on any given day.
A parent has one, two or three children.
A parent has these children for most of the night.
It is a parent's job to ensure that a child learns the information given by the teacher.
The woman makes a good living for a single mother with one child (She nets about $65k a year) yet she complains that she is always broke.
Upon entering their home I knew why.
The woman seems to be trying to compensate for her lack of maternal skills by buying her son whatever he wants.
This may be fine but the woman rents an apartment, drives the company car and purchases her home furnishings and appliances from rent-to-own stores.
The woman borrows one pay day loan to pay off the prior month's pay day loans. The woman has no net worth.
This woman's financial woes seem to be the result of her need to feel equal to those around her.
This woman is making a good living without any education beyond that of high school.
I'm assuming that she validates herself through her ability to freely spend (borrowed) money.
To tell the truth, I've never seen anyone so broke who has such a large collection of shoes, belts and purses.
The woman would always boast about her possessions until one day I explained to her that she owned nothing but debt - and that that debt was actually owned by some bank.
I explained that if she would miss a few drunken nights at the club and instead spend those nights helping her son with his homework and talking to him that she wouldn't feel so guilty that she would feel the need to try to buy his affection.
I explained that if she was a better mother that she may actually feel good enough about herself so that she wouldn't have to have the parade of men leaving her bedroom most mornings in her efforts to find 'a good man'.
I know it sounds as though I've been bashing women in most of my recent posts - but I'm not.
Who I am bashing are the sorry-assed ho's who think that shows like 'Love and Hip Hop" offer the best example of Black womanhood in America today.
Who I am bashing are the women who raise their son's to be their 'man' instead of raising their sons to be a man.
I know I am rambling but I'm just sick of always trying to help people who don't want any help.
I'm just tired of helping people who don't really want to do better for themselves - they just want everything done for them.....
Tuesday, August 28, 2012
Sunday, August 19, 2012
I guess those who watch these shows can always say, "I may not have that car, house, body or looks. I may not be on television nor have the (relative) fame these women have. But at least I'm not as bad-off as those bitches.".
Tuesday, August 14, 2012
A woman at the club was boasting to me that she lived in one of the larger and newer homes in my neighborhood.
The woman pointed out that she had just built her home and that she had included all of the latest amenities.
She boasted of her new Benz and that she only shopped at Dillard's.
She boasted that her sons only wore Polo brand clothing.
She boasted that her husband had just been accepted into one of the many wanna'-be-elite clubs in our town.
The woman just seemed to be impressed with herself.
The thing is, the woman didn't know that I lived on one of the older more established blocks in her neighborhood.
But this was announced by another neighbor (the wife of a prominent doctor in town) who broke things down to her.
"You built your house to be near us - we never built our homes with the hopes of you moving in.", she said in a condescending manner.
"John has generational wealth and liquidity - you have debt in the hopes of being able to afford your bills each month.", she continued.
"John doesn't even shop at Dillard's nor wear Polo - they lack 'snob-appeal'. Have you even been to Saks, Barney's or Neiman-Marcus?", she would say.
"You built a house on a lot - we built our homes and some land.", the doctor's wife would continue.
The doctor's wife then walked away leaving the first-generation-middle-class woman dumbfounded.
"It's okay.", I said to the woman, "When everyone has money - it's incidental. There is no need to boast - it just comes across as being one from the lower classes.".
Monday, August 13, 2012
Many believe that no matter what one does - the end result(s) will always be the same.
That Al was smart and that his opinions have, more often than not, proven to be correct.
The thing about guys like Al is that they really have no problem with the established system - most just resent that they have no means by which to exert power within said system.
Guys like Al assume the role of the polemic when in reality they can easily be bought off and silenced with a radio/television contract.
Guys like Al are really just after the money - they have no real concern for social justice (unless it, in some way, benefits themselves.).
Would Al give up everything just because it was the right thing to do?
I just don't place much hope in any man who promises change of the Establishment when his whole life has been focused on becoming part of that establishment.